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How to Have a Good Conversation | Celeste Headlee | TEDxCreativeCoast

When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have great conversations – and most of us don’t converse very well. A great conversation requires a balance between talking and listening. This balance is important because bad communication leads to bad relationships, at home, at work, everywhere.

Celeste Headlee has worked in public radio since 1999, as a reporter, host, and correspondent. She was the Midwest Correspondent for NPR before becoming the co-host of the PRI show The Takeaway. She also guest hosted a number of NPR shows including Tell Me More, Talk of the Nation, Weekend All Things Considered, and Weekend Edition.

Celeste holds multiple degrees in music and still performs as a professional opera singer. She’s the granddaughter of composer William Grant Still, the Dean of African American Composers. Celeste is an avid hiker, biker, paddler and dog walker.

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33 thoughts on “How to Have a Good Conversation | Celeste Headlee | TEDxCreativeCoast”

  1. jackgoldman1 says:

    What polarizes us is women against men, colored against whites, Jews against Christians, homosexuals against heterosexuals, immigrants against locals, minorities against majorities. The content does not matter. It's the minority wars that never relent. It's all about feels.

  2. Becca B says:

    I need a video like this but that's more focused on if your a good listener but bad at talking.

  3. I wish I would have watched this video earlier. Whatever, it's amazing.

  4. vaccines are causing global warming

  5. Chad Martin says:

    @everyone <lol if you get it 😎

  6. I'll bet I could disappoint her…
    (da dum,dump, cymbal crash…)

  7. TheBuy More says:

    How good was that!

  8. No wonder that people text each other, considering how much she talks no wonder people don't want to listen .

  9. it was a really good video for those who want to improve
    very well made it understandable by aking real life examples

  10. This was great 👏🏽

  11. Eugene Saint says:

    OMG, Celeste…I'm guilty (more often than not) of every one of these bad conversational habits — especially Bogarting the conch shell. Fortunately, the older I get, the more fleeting are those off the wall tangents that I previously might have tried to get into the conversation at the first decent break point. So…they just go away. The problem is: Any time they spend standing there not listening to me is time I'm NOT standing there not listening to them. So…my question to you (I reckon…maybe…) would be: To you have any suggestions on how to steer a conversation towards more balance? — Perplexed in Ohio (BTW, the mini-skirt bit was great) :^)

  12. A beautiful and incredibly relative insight from a beautiful woman.

  13. Thank you so much for sharing, I practically transcribed this talk!

  14. Charles Long says:

    Most if not all people are formulating what they are going to say next, while the other person is speaking, so they really can’t think about what the other person is saying. A clever conversational tool is to not finish your statements. Speak most of a sentence, but stop speaking just before uttering the critical word, the one word which reveals the meaning of the sentence. If you then pause for ten or fifteen seconds, the other person will start speaking. Immediately jump on that person, and demand, “I’m still speaking. You never let me speak.” Another clever tactic is to list at least six or seven talking points, contentions, insults, in hope they cannot remember the first three or four, and will only refute the last one, meaning they accept the first five as valid, that is they can’t refute them.

  15. How to Have a Good Conversation: Speak only to yourself…

  16. Clutch says:

    How do you do point #1 when you have no control of when/what your mind is thinking about at the moment?

  17. She just took the plight of wives who are trying to connect with their husbands and lift their hubbies communication game, back 38 years when she said, ‘You don’t have to show you are paying attention, if you are really paying attention’

    I just heard 972,000,000 men that don’t really listen to their wives, squeal with glee.

  18. Hal Martin says:

    You're either nervous or pissed or both. On the rag you are.

  19. Very nice 👍 Thank Mam

  20. Hello ms. Headless. I’m Amazed. I’ve Learned something new, with better understanding. I’m Here. Thx

  21. "i agree listening is a skill"!……so wait & contain oneself!?

  22. Number 6 is something I do, but not to one up anyone. I like to relate to someone’s experience by sharing the similarities.

  23. Thank you so much for this! It’s amazing what kind of advice you can find even when you didn’t know you needed to hear it. 💕

  24. Hmmm. Easier said than done. Can sum1, think its conversation but difficult to do.??? maybe, just be mentally challenged to socialize with other folks.????

  25. Yuri Gagarin says:

    Not happening blah blah blah

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