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Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel





Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.

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23 thoughts on “Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel”

  1. J O says:

    I have a better way… no matter what… do not fuckin' cheat!!!

  2. When I discovered my ex-wife's affair, it immediately broke the bond of trust. I discovered that even love cannot outweigh a lack of trust in your partner. Without trust, you really have absolutely nothing.

  3. "It's not so much that we're looking for another person as much as it is that we are looking for another self."

  4. This is very insightful. We always seem to want to paint the person having the affair as such a low-life, like he's a cheater, she's the evil woman, blah, blah, blah. Some people are too damn judgemental. The cold reality is that just because you're married or in a committed relationship doesn't mean you don't notice other people. I don't think that everyone who has cheated did it because they viciously hate their spouse. Why do people cheat? Because they can. It happens.

  5. Excelent. Thank you. Is there a chance we can have this with spanish subtitles please?

  6. We used to divorce when we were unhappy, today we divorce to be happier. This statement had me

  7. Flame Maiden says:

    Most thought provoking thing I've ever encountered, Thank you so much.

  8. R S says:

    Looks like Kim is enjoying herself with vacations and whatnot..im happy for her.

  9. I loved the video, but dang Priya got called out!!

  10. very….very….interesting

  11. What are we supposed to do when we have found that special person that you truely fell in love after you have been hurt or damaged from past relationships, lied too, cheated on, broken hearted, trust broken, beaten, mentally and physically and verbally and we find that one person we want to spend the rest of our lives with

  12. vambo13257 says:

    Boy, talk about putting a spin on being a cheating scumbag

  13. Inception Vj says:

    One of the fewer ladies whom I have seen talking meaningful & logical.. Rare Intelligent female breed.. !

  14. riccia888 says:

    Stupid woman. Go mgtow

  15. dee jackson says:

    Wow that was powerful!!

  16. genia kla says:

    What about the third person? When he/she is told to wait ? Nobody and never cares about him/her. …

  17. its simple you have money, you can have anything you like in your bed, cheat happens cause we dont want to admit, that man/women, always want something diffrent, something spicie,
    many times, we make relashionships, cause……we have nothing better to do…
    reallitie is simple, and 70% of the world has created by ppl who dont know what they are doing….
    even the worst relasionship, is better than the best,,,handjob….thats the reallity….

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  20. I think the whole premise is growth. Yeah…she was talking about a relationship…but for me I see it applying to multiple aspects in life.

    Right after college/military… I had a career where I always had my eye on anything else. I had a girlfriend and I was always looking at something else. Basically I wasn't happy in general with what I had.

    I believe a big part of our experience here is growth. We make "final" decisions in our 20's…career/spouse…but not realizing the inevitable change and growth one has to naturally go through.

    I'm 37…in my 2nd serious relationship. It's much different. I'm clearer in my direction…so it allowed me to find a better compliment. You got to know yourself, be a whole person…and if someone comes along to share some time on your path, cherish it.

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